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On The Day You Were Born

Author: Debra Frasier
Publisher: Harcourt Brace Jovanovich
1250 Sixth Avenue
San Diego, CA 92101

Cost: $13.95

Reviewed by: Joanne Green

While browsing in the Children's Book department of my local bookstore, a place I often find myself these days, I found a veritable treasure! I picked this book up to skim the pages and found myself thrilling at every page. And at every page, I found myself thinking, "What a PERFECT book for my children!!!"

Why am I so impressed by this book? It's the message. On the day that you were born, the world rose up in celebration. It's simple, but it's powerful. And it's exactly the message our children need to hear.

According to Ms Frasier, the news of the impending birth was shared around the world by the migrating animals. With the animals "the marvelous news migrated worldwide". The heavenly bodies aligned themselves to greet the new little one, even before the big event, and the world, in anticipation of the grand moment, turned to face the warming sun.

And then you were born. And the forces of nature showered you with their gifts of love. Gravity's strong pull held you to Earth, the Sun sent up flames to light your sky. The Moon came to visit you every month and the North Star shone in your night sky. The winds, the tides, the rain and the forests all gave gifts of themselves to this one very special person. And when you slipped out from darkness, the people sang and "they whispered into your open, curving ear, 'We are so glad you've come!' "

Does the whole world indeed come out to welcome each new child that enters this world? I suppose it's a matter of interpretation. But for some children in this world, their concept of their birth is not a lovely one. And this book is a much-needed affirmation of the worth and individual value of every person.

My children were relinquished for adoption at their births. How easy it would be for them to conclude that their birth was not celebrated. Can they ever know how much I loved them even before I knew them? How year after year I prayed for them, longed for them. I only feel sorry that I was not able to be present to welcome them into the world.

So also for children whose births were marked by the presence of a distinguishable birth defect. So many have explained, "When I was born, my mother cried..." Ah yes, it may have been an unexpected surprise for your parents, but you were no less cherished. And the world knew that all along.

A world-wide celebration of the uniqueness of every child? Why not? Our children deserve no less than that.

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